slap in the face

Last week when he invited me to watch fireworks with them (he and the kids) I quickly accepted, thinking what a nice gesture it was. A few days later I changed my mind, thinking that I really ought to let him start having his weekends with the kids, alone. I think I'm the one having the hard time.

I left town so as not to be tempted to butt in. Just as I arrived at my destination--5 hours away--, he texted me to say he recently ("about a week ago" was what he said, but that probably means 4-6 months ago) signed up for a "Christian" dating site and he met an "Older, well-grounded, Christian woman with grown children". He wanted to invite her to join the kids for fireworks since I "backed out" on him and he wanted to know my opinion even though he said "it really doesn't matter what you think anymore".

To say I was hurt and pissed would be the understatement of the flipping world. I think I probably had a mini stroke.

I called him immediately. He, of course, didn't answer his phone, but I left him a voicemail saying I thought it was extremely TACKY to invite a date along. I reminded him that we had talked about not exposing our kids to a revolving door of people---from either of us---and that we wouldn't introduce our kids to people unless it got to the point of being somewhat serious. BUT, if he chose to invite this unknown woman along anyways, I'd prefer that he not leave our children alone with her for any amount of time--not even 20 seconds to go grab a coke.

He texted me back immediately: "I'll do as you wish"......meaning what? You won't invite her or you won't leave our children unattended with her? I couldn't tell.

It ended up that he didn't bring her along. I don't know the details of why. I'm dying to know, but the truth is, it really isn't my business. And I can't stop him from doing anything...after July 21, I will have no say in anything he does.