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My husband called to ask me what "my plan" is. For the zillionth time I told him what "our" plan was, reminding him of the many conversations "we" have had over the last several months that got us to this point. He is some big denial, if you ask me. Even after this has been talked about, mulled over, discussed to the point of bursting a vein, confirmed, amended, and almost-finalized, he is still playing dumb.



The first few months of this Beginning-of-the-End phase we're in, I would almost daily tell him what I needed from him in order to proceed with our relationship as a married couple. He would ask--I wouldn't just offer my advice unsolicited. It always involved repentance in some form. Inevitably, he would ask ---after I had just spent time explaining things from my point of view---"What do you mean?". Oft times he would simply walk away, seemingly frustrated that I had imposed requirements on him at all. Sometimes he would start doing nice things or using a nicer tone of voice. The thing he has completely avoided these months, is making any sort of effort at repenting. He is doing unrelated things---being nice, doing the dishes---to try and "make up for it".

He has apologized. The first apologies came with that unmistakable tone of a tantrum-throwing toddler. The words may have been the right ones, but the delivery negated all authenticity. But he continued to do as he wanted.

I saw this today and, for some reason, it just resonated with me. Especially around the 2:00 mark....it's, of course, not talking about personal relationships, but some of the money (mis) management this guy is mentioning rings true in my little corner of the world. Funny stuff. It's good to laugh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94lW6Y4tBXs